沉，是我在这段时间内思考最多的一个字。沉，可以是沉淀，沉淀后，就会变得沉着。
沉着的男人最有魅力，这个是我一向来不曾动摇过的信念，然而沉着这个个性，不是一朝一夕就能够培养出来，有些人个性使然，天生冷静，想法周全，那么他们比较容易练就“沉着”这个个性；
然而有些人天生充满战斗力，目标设定了就往前冲，这是好事，充满战斗力的人容易成功，但是，也容易在爬上巅峰后跌下来？为什么？因为不够沉。
不够沉怎么办？可以训练啊，那么如果你选择了对的减压方式，我相信慢慢地他能够让自己的心静下来，慢慢地沉淀自己，慢慢地思考。
那么一旦选错了减压方式，首先减压的方式其实让你麻醉自己，加上价值观摆得不正，再来冲动地任由欲望来控制自己，一旦你任由欲望控制自己，那么你的自制能力就变得脆弱无比。
日前看到一个有趣的视频，讲述的是一个通过考验人性面对当前欲望时的自制能力，来印证日后他们达到成功的机率。实验结果和理论是否能够一概而论见仁见智，但是自律的人比较能够摆正价值观往前走，却是个不争的事实。
From Wikipedia:
The Stanford marshmallow experiment[1] was a study on deferred gratification conducted in 1972 by psychologist Walter Mischel of Stanford University. A marshmallow was offered to each child. If the child could resist eating the marshmallow, he was promised two instead of one. The scientists analyzed how long each child resisted the temptation of eating the marshmallow, and shows that waiting longer was correlated with future success.[2] The authors interpreted the result as showing that greater self control (as measured by ability to delay gratification) results in more life success.
The Stanford marshmallow experiment[1] was a study on deferred gratification conducted in 1972 by psychologist Walter Mischel of Stanford University. A marshmallow was offered to each child. If the child could resist eating the marshmallow, he was promised two instead of one. The scientists analyzed how long each child resisted the temptation of eating the marshmallow, and shows that waiting longer was correlated with future success.[2] The authors interpreted the result as showing that greater self control (as measured by ability to delay gratification) results in more life success.
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